01 June, 2012

Is dowry problem also root cause of other problems??

After watching 'Satyameva jayathe' episode 3, i feel dowry problem is not a single issue, but is leading to several other problems.

1. If a marriage is involved with dowry ( bride's parents forced to give dowry), how can a bride be happy with her husband without even mentioning the pain that their parents are facing? How can she make their in law's home a happy place when their parents are recovering from financial problems? Will it not create any problem in her marriage? Won't her husband be also a sufferer due to her behavior/ pain?

2. I feel, one of the root causes for female foeticide is dowry problem. Why i say this is - if you give birth to a daughter and you know that you have to pay huge sum to get her married and see her happy in future, then you may feel baby boy  is better than a baby girl. When parents don't have this fear in mind, then female foeticide may reduce. 

3. Another problem is illiteracy. Many people are not interested to make their daughters study well as per their wish. They think, if she becomes an engineer or doctor or any professional and earns well, searching for a suitable bride groom of that stature and qualifications will become difficult, as they need to spend much on dowry for an engineer or doctor or any professional bride groom. 

I know, days are changing. Iam hearing this from my childhood. But, still some people are not coming strong against dowry. Iam not sure how many years will it take to completely eliminate dowry practice from India. 

Iam dreaming of one scenario:
- Marriages happening with expenses paid by both bride and bride groom's side equally
- Bride and bride groom responsible for buying the furniture or anything related to their house independently without depending on either side of parents
- No dowry deaths, No female foeticide
- Girls getting educated and becoming independent 

But, i believe change comes from within us, as we are part of the society and we cannot blame others for this. I decided i will show right path to my children and guide next generation to eliminate this social evil practice. What else can we do as an individual? Please share your opinion in 'comments' section.

Until next time,

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P V Ariel said...

Hi Mahati,
Yes, dowry is a deep rooted malady in the society and i am sure it leads to many other problems,
Good to be here, a well written piece. keep writing keep inform
PS/ Pl. take out the word verification it irritates your readers i mean the commentators

Mahathi Ramya said...

thanks for the suggestion Phil.. removed word verification.

Ash said...

Wonderful... i am waiting for the day men stand up and say no to dowry, and women's families refuse to cave in to demands.

Read my posts on this.... here ... and ... here too

jeyasree said...

yes.. Guys parents saying status as one of the reason for getting dowry... Atleast next generation should change this non sense thing...

Mahathi Ramya said...

thanks for dropping by Ash and Jeyasree :)
Even iam waiting for the day Ash
truly said Jeyasree, our and next generation can change this

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